Honestly it’s so hard! When I open Pinterest I’m overloaded with outfits I want. I can’t do a capsule wardrobe but having key pieces in your wardrobe that will make you feel good when wearing them are essential! It also helps me to buy second hand only. If you google an item you want, it’s right there. But second hand limits me in buying because it’s harder to find a certain piece that is close to the aesthetic I am looking for, if that makes sense? Anyway, loved your piece 🩷
Pinterest is such an overload of inspiration sometimes!
I tend now to look specifically for outfits that I can recreate with what I already have, but sometimes the eye wanders to other pieces and so it starts again haha... But you're so right about key pieces, especially if they make you feel put together and they fall right on your body (Pinterest gives good ideas, but the fit matters sooo much).
for your first opinion piece I am simply in awe - I really loved how this was written, and I can definitely relate to so many elements you mentioned!! I would be lying if I wasn't still trying to perfect my own wardrobe to reflect a certain ideal, but over the years I've definitely let the pressure go (thank god)
Thank you, this means a lot! The trial of striving towards an ideal is one not easily overcome, but I love seeing that you can relate, and I love the Substack platform for letting us voice our thoughts. I meet so many amazing and inspiring people!
letting go of the women with cashmere sweaters and matching underwear is sooo hard😔 I've been struggling with chasing 'that girl's for actual years so this really resonated with me and I love the way you approached this topic. I'm hooked on your writing!
"that girl" is definitely one of those two-sides-to-the-same-coin trends and I've had my bout of it too (in hindsight, I'm glad I couldn't get my hands on a Stanley cup)
But I'm so glad it resonated with you! Thank you for being here ♡
I feel this struggle a lot where it's like, aspirationally that sounds so good but in reality I oscillate between coastal grandma and chore-coat wearing art teacher stylistically. Sometimes it's all overwhelming and it becomes a question of "okay but what is going to work for me, what fabric will I like, can I dupe the vibe with what I have..?"
Coastal grandma x art teacher is such a vibe! I think I might be comfy libarian core on the daily myself haha
And I agree! Even if you buy the exact items of the outfit you're trying to replicate, it won't look the same on you. So finding fabrics and fits to your body specifically is so important in order to look and feel elevated.
Ya, I'm currently US size 18/20 and fluctuating because I'm on Mounjaro so some aesthetics just don't look good on me, so it's knowing what works for my shape/height, comfort, and personal style. Sometimes 60s/70s French/euro flair makes its way in because I AM OBSESSED with Francoise Hardy's 60s/70s looks. But to me, being 40 now, comfort is a big prio. Love library core, btw, that was a lot of my 30s style.
I've slowly come to realise which things suit me best too - sometimes, with great sadness, because I wish I could pull off other looks, but there's enough that looks great on me too!
I'm simply obsessed with Francoise Hardy too! So chic.
It’s taking me a lot of willpower not to browse for my next trip too! And while it’s fine to purchase perhaps one new item in anticipation, I’m instead seeing it as an opportunity to save up and get myself something lovely there instead!
It’s v exciting for us. ☺️ Yes I might get something new, just one thing to update, and it would be nice to visit a market and maybe get something for her. 🦋
Oh my goodness. This resonates so much — the 50 tabs for something to elevate happiness for just a moment 🙈 I shop VERY rarely, and still have my moments of the 50 tab search. Getting off social media has helped tremendously, but I still understand this tension!! So well said ❤️
Honestly it’s so hard! When I open Pinterest I’m overloaded with outfits I want. I can’t do a capsule wardrobe but having key pieces in your wardrobe that will make you feel good when wearing them are essential! It also helps me to buy second hand only. If you google an item you want, it’s right there. But second hand limits me in buying because it’s harder to find a certain piece that is close to the aesthetic I am looking for, if that makes sense? Anyway, loved your piece 🩷
Pinterest is such an overload of inspiration sometimes!
I tend now to look specifically for outfits that I can recreate with what I already have, but sometimes the eye wanders to other pieces and so it starts again haha... But you're so right about key pieces, especially if they make you feel put together and they fall right on your body (Pinterest gives good ideas, but the fit matters sooo much).
And yes to second hand!
for your first opinion piece I am simply in awe - I really loved how this was written, and I can definitely relate to so many elements you mentioned!! I would be lying if I wasn't still trying to perfect my own wardrobe to reflect a certain ideal, but over the years I've definitely let the pressure go (thank god)
Thank you, this means a lot! The trial of striving towards an ideal is one not easily overcome, but I love seeing that you can relate, and I love the Substack platform for letting us voice our thoughts. I meet so many amazing and inspiring people!
I totally agree!! I feel like it’s one of the platform where we actually connect with strangers which is really nice
letting go of the women with cashmere sweaters and matching underwear is sooo hard😔 I've been struggling with chasing 'that girl's for actual years so this really resonated with me and I love the way you approached this topic. I'm hooked on your writing!
"that girl" is definitely one of those two-sides-to-the-same-coin trends and I've had my bout of it too (in hindsight, I'm glad I couldn't get my hands on a Stanley cup)
But I'm so glad it resonated with you! Thank you for being here ♡
I feel this struggle a lot where it's like, aspirationally that sounds so good but in reality I oscillate between coastal grandma and chore-coat wearing art teacher stylistically. Sometimes it's all overwhelming and it becomes a question of "okay but what is going to work for me, what fabric will I like, can I dupe the vibe with what I have..?"
Coastal grandma x art teacher is such a vibe! I think I might be comfy libarian core on the daily myself haha
And I agree! Even if you buy the exact items of the outfit you're trying to replicate, it won't look the same on you. So finding fabrics and fits to your body specifically is so important in order to look and feel elevated.
Ya, I'm currently US size 18/20 and fluctuating because I'm on Mounjaro so some aesthetics just don't look good on me, so it's knowing what works for my shape/height, comfort, and personal style. Sometimes 60s/70s French/euro flair makes its way in because I AM OBSESSED with Francoise Hardy's 60s/70s looks. But to me, being 40 now, comfort is a big prio. Love library core, btw, that was a lot of my 30s style.
I've slowly come to realise which things suit me best too - sometimes, with great sadness, because I wish I could pull off other looks, but there's enough that looks great on me too!
I'm simply obsessed with Francoise Hardy too! So chic.
I totally relate. I’m taking my 18 yo daughter to Paris this summer, I caught myself browsing for a new wardrobe, completely unnecessary!
And enjoy Paris!! It’s such a beautiful city and a great mother daughter trip idea 🥹
It’s taking me a lot of willpower not to browse for my next trip too! And while it’s fine to purchase perhaps one new item in anticipation, I’m instead seeing it as an opportunity to save up and get myself something lovely there instead!
It’s v exciting for us. ☺️ Yes I might get something new, just one thing to update, and it would be nice to visit a market and maybe get something for her. 🦋
Such a real post
Oh my goodness. This resonates so much — the 50 tabs for something to elevate happiness for just a moment 🙈 I shop VERY rarely, and still have my moments of the 50 tab search. Getting off social media has helped tremendously, but I still understand this tension!! So well said ❤️
100%! I've slowly been weaning off social media myself because it definitely heightens the "I need this and I need it now" craze.
Thanks for reading ♡